Feb 15, 2015

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Until Love Finds You



Until Love


Tis the season for cards, candies, and flowers. This is the time of year when lovers openly express their love for each other by exchanging gifts, dining by the candle light, and slow dancing cheek to cheek. It sounds so lovely, but in reality, everyone’s Valentine’s Day weekend doesn’t look like this. It’s more like the polar opposite, and that, my friend, can be quite depressing. BUT, I have great news for all my single ladies and fellas! Here’s what you can do until love finds you (for the ladies) or until you find love (for the fellas)…you see what I did there?! LoL:


Set Your Sights on God

Many times, as single people, we focus so much on our current marital or relational status until it’s all we see. Everything we think about or do/don’t do revolves around that status. I admit it’s a struggle IF that’s all you focus on. But, instead of limiting what you can do and what God can do through you, change your focus. Start focusing your attention on God. Believe it or not, you’re able to do more for God as a single person (i.e. before you start a family) because you don’t have others vying for your attention and time. You’re able to dedicate more of yourself to God and His plans for your life.

Also, when you set your sights on Him, you’re no longer open prey for disappointment. I can always tell when I’ve shifted my focus from God, because I get hurt. So many times I find myself putting my faith in a person, and then when it doesn’t work out, I experience heartache. That tells me that I stopped looking to God to be my source and started investing my hope in a person. I’m finally learning to keep my eyes fixed on God, so now when things don’t work out, I’m unhindered because I know God’s got me. My fate doesn’t rest in a person; it rests in Him (and that’s a good place for it to rest).


Immerse Yourself In Godly Community

Most people can’t wait to meet the guy or gal of their dreams because they believe that person will bring fulfillment to their life. I’m not going to lie, relationships do help you live life to the fullest, but a romantic relationship isn’t the only bond that brings happiness. You should also surround yourself with people of like-kind faith / Godly community. It wasn’t until recently that I truly experienced what being apart of a Godly community was like. I began hanging out with people who prayed with me, fasted with me for breakthroughs, and encouraged me daily. This is important for a single Christian because it draws you closer to God (the company you keep is very influential), and you also get to experience the type of love that cares about and nourishes your spirit. Now that I think about it, it’s almost like preparation for a Godly courtship – one that feeds your spirit not your body….GET YOU SOME COMMUNITY.



This is the optimum time to serve! When I say serve, I mean help others, and the best place to serve is in your local church. Serving others helps you take your concentration off your situation and shift it to someone else’s needs. And, I’m not sure if anyone told you, but marriage is all about serving (putting your plans to the side for the benefit of the other person), so you might as well start practicing now. Don’t just show up to the altar on your wedding, and expected all the qualities for having a great marriage to be bestowed upon you when you say “I do.” That’s not gonna happen!

I know serving doesn’t sound too glamorous, but it’s something you have to experience to realize how awesome it is. It gives you the opportunity to see that there’s more needs in the world aside from yours. Sometimes you get so caught up in your situation that you don’t realize how blessed you are, and you can’t see those hurting around you. Serving helps open your eyes to see the needs of others.  Also, your pray life becomes less self-centered as a result.


I guess what I’m really trying to say is enjoy your season of singleness. It’s a beautiful time for you to build relationships: 1) Set the foundation for you & God. Develop a bond with Him so close that no other relationship comes between it. Your future mate will just be an addition to that bond, not a replacement. 2) Develop Godly friendships that exemplify God’s love for us. 3) Sacrifice your desires and plans by serving others. This is when you truly understand what love means. For God so loved the world that He gave/sacrificed His Son for our benefit.


In closing, check out this awesome word of encouragement (author unknown). Enjoy!


“Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone. 
To have a deep soul relationship with another. 
To be loved thoroughly and exclusively 
But God, to a Christian, says 
No, not until you are satisfied, filled, and content 
With being loved by Me alone; 
With giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me alone, 
Discovering that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found 
[And only in Me will you] be capable of the perfect human relationship 
That I have planned for you. 
You will never be united with another until 
you are united with me, 
Exclusive of any other or anything else. 
Exclusive of any other desires or longings. 
I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, 
And allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing. 
One that you cannot imagine. 
I want you to have the best. 
Please allow me to bring it to you. 
You must keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things. 
Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I am, 

Keep learning and learning all the things that I tell you. 
You just wait; just wait. That’s all. 
Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. 
Don’t look around at the things others have gotten, 
Or that I have given them. 
Don’t look at the things you think you want 
You just keep looking off and away to Me 
Or you will miss what I want to show you. 
And then when you’re ready, I’ll surprise you with 
A love more wonderful than any you would dream of. 
You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready (I am working even at the moment to have both of you ready at the same time), 
Until you are both satisfied with Me 
And the life I’ve prepared for you, 
You won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies 
Your relationship with me, and this is the perfect love. 
And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love. 
I want you to see in the flesh 
A picture of your relationship; 
Of beauty, perfection and the love that I offer you 
With myself. 
I am God. 
Believe it and be satisfied”


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