Mar 10, 2014

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This Love Exists


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“Well, this is the best I can do.” That’s how many of us think, so we lower our standards and “settle” into a relationship with him or her just because we believe the love we desire doesn’t exist. I mean, no one wants to be alone, right?

As a woman, you wanted a man who pursued you, but you keep bumping into that dude who thinks women should come to him. So, you lace up your sneakers and run after after him. Or, maybe you’re a guy who desires a woman with brains and beauty, but you keep meeting women who appeal to your eyes yet disappoint when they open their mouths. So, you entertain the company of brainless beauties.

Christians experience similar frustrations. Many times when it comes to Christian dating, we get weary because it seems like no one you meet is really trying to make their faith their lifestyle, so you “adjust” or “conform” your standards to your surroundings.

I personally desire someone who has their own relationship with God, first and foremost, but also someone who has their own standards and the relationship is led by his standards. I say that because I believe the man should be the head of the relationship, and he should define the boundaries. Imagine meeting a guy that says, “I am celibate. I will remain that way until I get married. And, in order to be successful at this, I think it would be best if we hang out in group/public settings, not by ourselves.” I would be like “that’s my line!” LoL!…Have I met anyone that’s set those boundaries? No. But, I still believe that kind of love exists!

I also desire to be with someone who I don’t have to “dumb down” my faith for. I want to be able to tell him about how awesome pray time was, discuss the Marilyn Hickey book I’m reading, and just openly express my love for God without being labeled a “Super Christian.” A guy actually said that to me once. He was like, “Oh, you super saved!” LoL! Subsequently, I knew I couldn’t honestly talk to him about my relationship with God. I don’t want to be with someone who makes me feel ashamed of my desire for more of God, but someone who makes me want to draw closer to God. Have I bumped into that kind of guy lately? No. But, I still believe that kind of love exists!

Whatever kind of person you’re believing God for, that love exists! I want to encourage you to invite God into your dating life. Ask Him to give you direction in that area, and ask Him to take people out of your life that aren’t pleasing to Him/not for you. And, believe you me, those people will miraculously disappear with a quickness! Now, I will warn you that this way may not be the most “fun.” And, you may not have a date lined up every Friday night like you’re used to, but being “set aside” for the right person will give you time to strengthen your relationship with God while you’re single. It will require a lot of patience, but I believe the payoff will be worth the wait. And, speaking of “Worth the Wait,” check out this awesome video by chaseGodtv and be blessed! **G.I.G.**

P.S. – As Christians, I know there’s other qualities we desire in a significant other; not just spiritual, but superficial as well. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be attracted to the person you end up with. I know I want to be! So, whatever your desires are, make them known to God (Philippians 4:6). Also, spend time delighting yourself in the Lord, and He’ll give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4). The more you “delight” yourself in Him, your desires will actually begin to line up with His…

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  • December86

    that is so my line!!!!!! This helps a lot to know I am not the only single Christian with boundaries and waiting for more. Thanks!

  • June

    It is so wonderful to see your sentiments being echoed by another single Christian woman. I got the look when I wanted to talk about my desire for more of God- oh no she is one of those Christians. And while I too want the man to be the head, just seems like it isn’t going to happen anytime soon. But I’m encouraged that I’m not alone in my thinking.

    • You’re definitely not alone!…P.S. – I know it seems like it’s not going to happen anytime soon, but things aren’t always as they seem ;-)