Mar 11, 2013

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Don’t Take It Personal

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Don't Take It Personal

 

REJECTION! It has the power to paralyze a person’s confidence, and prevent them from moving forward. It can control the decisions a person makes and the decisions a person does not make. Why is it so powerful? I believe it’s because people don’t like feeling as though they’re “not good enough.” After being rejected, most people critique themselves as if the problem is with them. And, on some occasions, you may be rejected because of something you did, but I want to talk about the times when you’re rejected & you’ve done nothing wrong.

Here are two common reasons why people reject others: 1) Not everyone’s a great appraiser – meaning a lot of people aren’t good at determining the value of others. Many times people reject others not knowing that they just turned away a priceless jewel. If you’re unaware of the value of something you’ll treat it like it’s worthless. Taking that into consideration, don’t take it personal just because someone’s too blind to see your worth. 2) Personal preference. Everyone’s entitled to their own preferences, and you shouldn’t take it personal if you’re not someone’s preference. For instance, I like to cook with peppers and mushrooms, but mom doesn’t care for them. Subsequently, I didn’t take it personal when she turned her nose up at my Veggie Fajitas. There was nothing wrong with the dish, it just wasn’t her personal preference. Likewise, there’s nothing wrong with you if someone turns you down because you’re “not their type.”

I just want to encourage you not to take rejection to heart, because it’s capable of debilitating your life. If you take rejection personal, it can alter your personality, cripple your confidence, and decrease your self-esteem. And, I’m not saying this based on an educated guess; this is all based on first hand experience. I’ve had my fair share of rejections (and then some). So, take my word for it, don’t take it personal. Don’t allow rejection to interfere with your growth. Don’t allow it mold and shape who you are. Let God do that…He’s never rejected you. Even when you should’ve earned rejection, He gave you love instead. **G.I.G.**

P.S. – I once heard someone say, Sometimes rejection is God’s protection.” I couldn’t agree more. Just because a person is “good” doesn’t mean they’re “good for you.” In the past, I’ve been rejected and later realized that it was a blessing, because I dodged a bullet. There’s been situations where I almost wanted to write them a thank you letter that said, “Thank you for rejecting me! God sho’ is good!” LoL!!! Just remember Psalm 84:11 says, “No GOOD THING will He withhold from them that walk uprightly.” You just focus on walking uprightly, and, if you get rejected, just thank God that He has someone even better lined up for you. Also, thank Him because you might have just avoided a fatal attraction! That’s not a good look. LoL!

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  • T. A. Acker

    Great post! I remember being one of those individuals who would let rejection get to me. It really can make a person feel worthless. But, I had to learn to like myself, love myself, and even laugh at myself. God will help you see the value in yourself, even if no one else does! Sometimes, a person can try so hard to be someone’s preference that he or she loses their sense of self. We have to love the person God wanted us to be.

    • So true! I used to try to change myself, and it’s so much better when you accept yourself for who you are. Loving yourself is the key. For me, I just came to terms w/ the fact that although I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, I’m still a great cup of tea! LoL ;-)